Seeking a Soulmate Not Just a Date

Have you always known deep within your soul that the person with whom you are meant to be is out there, and are you wondering where and when you will meet? In our heart of hearts we intuitively know that there must be more to love relationships than what we are experiencing. It is my understanding that most people believe that they have an ideal mate and many secretly cherish the concept of having a soulmate. And why not? There is nothing more rewarding in life than a deep soul union with your spiritual partner. Most of us want a genuine loving partnership that will last our whole life. The secret to a successful happy union is to find the right person—your perfect match, your soulmate. Unfortunately, few people date in order to find their ideal mate. Instead, they search for a spouse or partner. If you’ve come to the realization that something is not working in your relationships, this report can help you step-up your search for your soulmate.

What Is a Soulmate?

The romanticized version of a soulmate is your one-and-only love who is absolutely perfect and gorgeous, smart and funny and matches you perfectly. When you meet you will fall head over heels in love and live happily ever. Now for the real definition. Your soulmate(s) are real people, just like you and me, with whom you share a strong spiritual bond that has existed through many incarnations. Notice I said people. Not one person. You can have more than one soulmate. Some will be of the romantic kind, but a soulmate can also be your best friend, a child or another family member with whom you are extremely close. In this article we will talk about the ones you really want to know most about—your romantic soulmate(s).

There are three primary types of soulmates:

1. Twin soul or twin flame: This is your one and only, your other half, the one most people think of when they think of soulmates. I hate to disappoint you but these relationships are extremely rare. Many believe that only very evolved, enlightened souls have a good chance of connecting with their twin souls.

2. Karmic soulmate: Karmic soulmates are drawn together to balance a spiritual debt or sometimes-negative mutual karma. Unfortunately, because the connection that karmic soulmates share is so strong, many mistake these soulmates as the real thing. Karmic soulmates are the people who challenge you the most.

3. Kindred spirit: A kindred spirit is a loving soulmate. These are the people with whom you are compatible and strongly connected in this lifetime. They can make very compatible partners with whom you can be happy and fulfilled.

Now you know that the soulmate you should be looking for is your kindred spirit, the soulmate I like to call your loving soulmate. Next let’s talk about how you can find your loving soulmate.

Dating in Order to Find Your Loving Soulmate

Many singles lower their standards when looking for love. They tend to date people who are completely wrong for them, people who cannot and will not love them the way they need to be loved. They easily start relationships with anyone who shows the slightest interest in them, without much consideration as to whether this person is right for them. Naturally these relationships almost always end in heartbreak, and they wonder how they could have been so foolish.

Does this sound like you? Most of us have done this at some point in our lives. It is all part of learning process. However, if you ever hope to connect with your true love you must pay more attention to the people with whom you choose to be.
Start with these three easy steps:

1. Decide why you are dating. Are you dating to just have fun and meet new people or to find your loving partner and settle into a committed relationship or marriage? I’m guessing that if you’re reading this article, it’s the latter.

2. Know yourself. Do you know who you really are and exactly what you want and need in life and in your mate?

3. Look for people who truly reflect who you are and what you want. You deserve to find a person who meets your expectations so don’t settle for less.

Now ask yourself what characteristics you need in a life partner in order to be happy. Write them down. Your list may look like this:

Strong values
Emotionally balanced
Financially secure
Spiritual
Non-smoker
Social drinker
Likes animals
Good looking
Healthy and fit
Romantic
Affectionate
Willing to commit

These are your “must haves,” your wish list, the qualities on which you will absolutely not compromise. While you may revise your list as you gain more experience in dating, to deny your non-negotiables is to deny your values, which are a major part of who you are. Don’t settle for someone who falls short of the qualities you really desire—it’s a high price to pay.

Where do you go and what do you do to meet this special person? To increase your odds of attracting the right mate, visit places most likely to attract people who share your values. Be open to opportunities all around you. Just about every location or activity is a possible avenue for meeting your partner. Here are some examples:

1. Take an adult education class. If you’re a woman take a class that men are inclined to sign up for and vice versa. Make sure that the class also appeals to you so that you are likely to meet someone who shares your interests and so that you won’t be disappointed if you don’t make any connections.

2. Attend parties. A party is a great opportunity to meet people. Make the most of it. Work the room so that you meet new people. Smile and introduce yourself, make eye contact, listen and ask questions. By conveying a genuine pleasure in meeting each person, you can learn something and, at the same time, expand your social connections.

3. Host a party. If you don’t get invited to many parties, throw one yourself. Ask your friends and coworkers each to invite two or three of their friends.

4. Join a health club. Get in shape while meeting new people. Don’t be afraid to strike up a conversation with the person next to you.

5. Join a dating service. While dating services are popular, some people are still uncomfortable with them. There are a few different types, such as individualized counselling, video matchmaking, personal ads and Internet dating.

Now that you know how to date smarter, go date with confidence and have some fun. Date different people until you meet the one who matches you perfectly.

Happy Dating,
Joanne B. Parrotta
Author of A Matter of Destiny

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Motivational writer Joanne B. Parrotta is the author of “A Matter of Destiny: How to Find and Marry Your Soulmate: A Beginner’s Spiritual Guide (BookSurge Publishing, an amazon.com company, 2006).” To learn more about this fascinating subject and to sign up for you’re FREE instantly down loadable soulmate reports, visit her website at: www.amatterofdestiny.com.

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